Hi, my name is Amanda Saunders and I am NOT a licensed therapist or psychologist and I most certainly don’t have a PhD in giving out medically sound information and advice. I am simply a 35 year old woman who is a single mom to two fantastic kids and I live a very busy life like everyone else. I juggle parenting and co-parenting, a job, family and friends, a personal and social life that is a totally new thing for me and I have been through heartbreak and sadness and all the emotions that go into marriage and divorce and raising kids. I started this blog as a way to therapeutically help myself through a tough period in my life and I am so excited to share my personal stories and victories and hopefully help someone along the way. Knowing I am not the only one that has gone through some pretty testing times is so relieving. With that being said I totally understand that there are people in the world who suffer more and are dealing with things that are beyond the scope of what I have dealt with so I am THANKFUL. That’s appropriate for this time of year. Being THANKFUL.
I am so thankful for so many things in my life, mostly my children. I am the proud mama to two boys, Brady and Brett. My oldest Brady is 12 and my youngest, Brett, is 8 years old. Raising boys as a single mother is not always easy, but definitely always fun (mostly…..). My boys are involved in every ding dang sport known to man. I am exaggerating a bit but they are playing sports year round and I literally get one week in July that is “sports free.” On top of sports they are obviously both in school and they both do very well in school, THANK GOD! I will admittedly say that my 8 year old third grader brought home math homework this year that his 35 year old mother didn’t understand and couldn’t do. I literally had to Google the question to get the answer. I cheated basically. What happened to just adding and subtracting and dividing and multiplying? Now we have number bonding. I don’t even know what number bonding is. That’s after reviewing Google. Still don’t get it. My oldest is on the verge of manhood. He will be 13 next year and we have reached the point of mood swings and sudden aversions to me eating off the same utensil as him. I birthed you. I own that fork. I basically own you until you’re 18, so deal with me eating that bite of ice cream off your spoon. Both my boys are great kids who, like every single child, has their moments but I wouldn’t trade motherhood in for the world. They definitely drive me crazy but they also have helped keep me sane. I am a total girly girl who likes to dress up and wear makeup (although I do appreciate a Sunday indoors with NO makeup and comfy clothes). I am getting to a point with my eldest child where I can see the relatability diminishing some because we are not the same gender and quite frankly, totally opposite. I can’t wait to dive into that topic because as much as I want to help YOU, I need YOUR help TOO!
I was married for 5 years to a nice guy who made some crappy decisions that resulted in a divorce at the tender age of 29. I am not going to sit on this blog and bash those decisions or that person, but I am going to touch on how it made me feel and how I managed to deal with it, because I think in today’s world marriage is taken for granted and it sucks when it ends. We all have our opinions on marriage, but my view hasn’t changed much. I believe in it. I think that it will happen for me again. I just think sometimes it isn’t meant to be for certain people. We are all different and we all value things differently. Marriage was very important to me and when mine ended I struggled a lot, but I had those two boys who picked me up when I was feeling down and I have the most amazing family and friends that are always there for me when things get tough. It’s not easy, but it’s not the end of the world either. Life goes on regardless, and you just have to keep moving with it.
Speaking of family and friends I have amazing parents who are my biggest fans and supporters. I have a younger sister who is a total rock star and who I am proud to call my best friend. My girlfriends are some of THE most important people in my life because they ground me. They tell me like it is and they make me laugh and I value those relationships so much more now than I did ten years ago. I am very BLESSED.
I have no idea what I am going to get out of this but I hope and I pray that if anything it helps one person or makes one person laugh out loud. There are plenty of funny stories that are actually real because I lived them and there are also lots of experiences that pull at your heart and make you want to cry and that’s something I look forward to touching upon too. My life is far from perfect but it is far from awful as well.